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title pic Filing a Marriage Certificate in the Philippines

Posted by admin on July 9, 2012

Couples get too excited with the wedding preparations, the church and the reception. But there is far more serious stuff to think about like a marriage license. A marriage license is what makes all the wedding glitz formal and legit. Even if the couple organizes the best wedding of the century, without a marriage license, it wouldn’t be acknowledged by the country and the couple cannot proudly play the roles of a married couple.

Marriage License Application

Marriage License Application

To file for a marriage license, there are several documents that may be required for single couples:

One (1) Original Newly Issued Birth Certificate with two (2) copies

One (1) Original NSO-Issued CENOMAR (Singleness Certificate) with one (1) copy

One (1) Original Barangay Certificate with one (1) copy

One (1) Original CEDULA (Residence Certificate) with two (2) copies

There are other documents that may be required by the government for widow/widower, foreign national or a minor (anyone less than 18 years of age). It is also best to prepare other form of government-issued identification like passport, driver’s license, postal ID, etc.

Another thing to consider and allot time for is the mandatory marriage seminar which both couples should attend. Although some arrange a representative to attend like an attorney, but it can be too costly and would add up on the additional expenses for the wedding. A certificate of attendance shall be issued right after attending the seminar and thus should be presented when applying for a marriage license.

Applying a marriage license not only legalizes the marriage to be acknowledged by the government. It will also give the couple their necessary rights towards each other’s well-being and properties. With a license, the wife can legally carry her husband’s last name and thus have the right to exercise her rights for being the wife. The husband also gains a sense of rights on his wife because of the power of the license.

 

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title pic Preferred Wedding Gown Color

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The color of your wedding gown will depend on whether you are the conservative or the traditional type of woman or the modern type that is influenced by the trending fashion.  There are a number of options to choose from these days.

One may wear a plain or colored t-shirt, denims, or rubber shoes or sneakers if you have the radical type of mind to show the “I don’t’ care what the world will say,” kind of attitude and thinking.

If you want to look lovely and go with the family or the country’s tradition then, decide on a white or off white for the color tone.

The bottom line is that it should suit your personality that lies along with you, so the decision is supposedly up to you.  To follow or not the tradition as to the color of the wedding gown is entirely up to you.  As long as it is in accordance to what you want to display in public especially if you have an hour glass figure.

In principle, what is regarded as an acceptable color is the white wedding dress. They say it is a symbol of innocence, elegance and purity and most brides will elect the white color though one is no longer as described.  For some brides they still prefer the color of white as they have they own meaning and symbolism.

Some, too, no longer follow the autocratic religious rules of the church as long as they could be able to express their own personal character and class.

What are of utmost important are the impression and the image you like to leave as your mark to the congregation in attendance.  Well.   White ones are still the most conventional and parents of both sides and guest will like to see it that way.

These are the stereotype kind of wedding gowns that it ought to be pure of white showing a class of glamour.  But if you like and definitely prefer the colors blue, black hues and pink, go ahead.  In my opinion one must deviate from the tradition and customs we have been aware and bought up with since one’s birth.

Choose one that will suit and be appropriate enough for your wedding theme.  One must be happy and be satisfied to the color tone one has in mind.  Better to please yourself rather than pleasing others.  Matter of fact the bride is the primary actor in any wedding ceremony and receptions. And it’s no one else.

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title pic A Wedding Production Number

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A wedding is akin to a production number. It takes a lot of preparation and imagination.

All essential elements must be in place in accordance to function, orderliness and structure to come up and expect a successful wedding celebration.

The stars of the show, being the principals themselves, are the bride and the groom.  This is a very special day, indeed, not only for the groom but most especially for the bride.

In every wedding celebration, I have always wondered why brides are the most excited, the most stressed out, the most tensed individual in the world.

Most girls as they grow up to be a woman had dreams of an elegant and grand wedding.

This perhaps can be blamed on the internet technology where a woman had been seeing wedding photographs of renowned personalities that they wish will also come true one of these days.

And because of this knowledge and information ingrained in a woman’s mind, the excitement builds up when the time of reality is at hand.    It is like a comparison of what had been to what is about to come out in a woman’s wedding day.

Aside from the physicality’s, the women feels that this moment is what  she has been looking forward to ever since.  And it displays how one feels to be in love and to be loved by the man that she will spend the rest of their lives.

But as couples being the star of the show is worth the challenge to their inventive selves and a project test of how they will be able to pull themselves through together as a team.  The way to make arranging a wedding less daunting and intimidating is team work. TEAMWORK is the name of the game.

Couples are advised to just focus on their perspective and not to be concerned that everything’s turns out “perfect.”  Let not perfection be the goal but a lovely celebratory time for kin and friends’ gathered around, toasting and roasting the bride and groom to a new life together.

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title pic The Wedding Rush

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Perhaps you may have heard some instances when young couples need to rush for a wedding due to some unavoidable circumstance with both sides of the party agreeing to the union.

To others it may not be a good decision in arriving at such an impulsive decision whenever the thought of marriage is concerned.  Yet couples must discuss and lay down the advantages and disadvantages to avoid regrets that will haunt them in the future.

Anyway, there is still a sense of excitement, adventure and thrill about the thought of rushing things towards your wedding day and the matter will still involve planning on the couple’s part.

It is better still to have a plan than to have no plan at all, though it may seem like in a haphazard way, a plan must be set in place.

So the prospect of being married with a romantic appeal takes a back seat. Wedding planning preparations and decisions will be fast paced even though you have a simple one in mind.

One will no longer think of the kind of wedding style, your choice of wedding clothes. In plain and simple term the thought of a grand wedding is out of the equation and it may not happen in the church at all.

All things considered this will just be a civil wedding.  All that is needed to be planned is the date and time of the wedding.  The rest of the elements required for a church wedding will not matter at all.   This is the kind of wedding done in a rush and in private, period.

While this type of wedding may be less of a hassle and stress free it is still more of an intimate ceremony especially with the person you love and only a handful of individuals as witness to your vows of marriage.  And budget wise, for the reception the cost of treating your relatives and friend to sumptuous meal is less.

Incidentally, a civil wedding is no longer frowned by the church unlike before.  What is important is to respect the couple’s decision to be wed at the soonest possible time.

It is at present a matter of saying best wishes to the bride and saying congratulations to the groom.

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title pic The Filipino Pre-Wedding Rituals

Posted by admin on July 7, 2012

No matter how modern a Filipino is, one way or another they still go through with the traditional pre-wedding rituals as practiced by the forefathers. The only difference is, the couple may not follow the same steps or even skip some rituals that they feel may be unnecessary.

Unlike the western counterpart, Filipinos do not dive in to the actual popping of question spontaneously. Filipinos like to propose a plan first; dropping in a few hints here and there to check if the woman does want to get married.  For Filipinos, doing a little background check and finding out how the woman’s thought of marriage first is better than unexpectedly popping the question.

Then when the guy feels more at ease that the woman would likely marry him; then there goes the giving of the ring. If the woman accepts (which is most likely since the guy already did the prior check), then a “pamamanhikan” shall be arranged. The “pamamanhikan” is the formal meeting of the two families to discuss the intention of the man, and the details of the wedding (if the woman’s family agrees with the plan).  Such event can be stressful for couples since Filipinos are family-oriented individuals and thus, the family’s thought on the marriage is always important.

Although traditionally, the guy’s “paninilbihan” or laboring for the woman’s family’s approval is done after the “pamamanhikan”, today such laboring is done prior to the first step. The guy usually labors for the family’s approval even at the point of dating so that when such event comes; it would be easier to deal with. And the woman’s family would less likely to disagree when the “pamamanhikan” happens.

If the immediate family already settles with the wedding details; couples are also expected to announce personally the plan to the elderly extended family (the grandparents and if possible, the relatives in the provinces or abroad). Although it’s not as formal as the “pamamanhikan” it is still an important ritual that couples do practice until now.

Finally, when everything else is settled, it’s time to meet the priest. The priest explains the duties and responsibilities of the couple as they venture into the married life. He may also assess if the couple is ready for such big leap and would offer spiritual guidance as well. It is also a pre-requisite that a couple confesses and come clean before the actual wedding as part of the wedding requirement of the church.

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title pic How to Write Wedding Vows

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Wedding Vows

Wedding Vows

The moment two people decide to marry; there are a lot of reasons why they dive into it. Of course, one of them should be love. But more than deep love, there should be trust, friendship, fun and support. But different people marry for many more reasons, something that may be too personal that only that person can appreciate it, and so they ask her to marry him. But whatever the reason may be, the wedding vow should sum it all up, but the question is how.

Of course, not everyone is talented or skillful enough to write a poem that expresses his deep love to his bride. And not everyone can play with words to reveal his/her real emotions. And sometimes, what’s inside the heart just couldn’t be put to words as easy and that’s why writing a wedding vow shouldn’t be done overnight and shouldn’t feel like a dreaded disease. Wedding vows are such a beautiful part of the ceremony; it shouldn’t be terrorizing rather it should be embraced.

First thing a groom or a bride should do is to list down all the characteristics of their partner in one piece of paper; whether good or bad, just write it down. It may take days to finally feel satisfied with the list, but don’t sweat it. Getting to know the person and learning to appreciate him or her did not happen as quickly as well.

After the list, reminisce about the past. Think about the ideal wedding, the ideal ma/woman and the ideal life that was once a childhood dream. Is the ideal man/woman fits the characteristics of the current fiancé/fiancée? Don’t worry if it doesn’t fit, maybe that’s worth writing in the vow that no matter how different the person is from the ideals, somehow it feels perfect still.

Then the promises; how much one can commit to his/her lifetime partner to be. One thing is for sure, no marriage is perfect but that imperfection can be overcome by promises that shouldn’t be broken. If the vow says love that lasts a lifetime, then no matter how hard the going gets, love shouldn’t be forgotten. If the vows says the promise of friendship, then be the friend in the vow.

These are mere little things that should be included in a vow. It doesn’t have to be poetic or without grammatical errors. The vow is not to be criticized, as long as it comes from the heart and is genuine,; then it may be the perfect vow in the world for the couple.

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title pic Emerging Color Combinations for Weddings

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A lot of Filipinos commit the mistake of choosing one specific color to lead the entire wedding motif.  And they end up with only one color at every corner of the reception, at the church and even on the sponsors’ attires. It becomes too hardly imposed that it takes away the romantic vibe of the event and end up looking like a campaign propaganda assembly.

Picking a motif doesn’t mean sticking up with one single color and making an effort to overdo it. It just means selecting complementary colors that looks well together and using it to create a great atmosphere for the grand event.

Black and white can be the most popular color combination of all time, it is so contrasting that it looks too well together. It is its extreme differences that make the two a great duo. With these two, couple can add in the extra color and still, it would still look good. Sometimes, nothing beats classic styles and essence.

Beach weddings are big on ocean shades with yellow. The combination gives out a happy vibe which is perfect for humorous couple. It also gives out relaxed feeling, not too much intimidating that guests could just let loose and have a good time. In the Philippines, where beach weddings are popular, this color combination also is quite famous.

For an intimate indoor evening wedding, the magenta-blue-green combination is a great fit. For one, most evening reception has yellowish lights, which reflects best with the three bold colors. Since it is also night-time where pale shades can go unnoticeable, bold colors give out a strong look even from afar. This combination is great for power couples who are leaders in their own respect.

For the opposite poles effect without being too bold, the combination of peony and nickel shades are the best bet. The contrasting masculinity and femininity of the colors works so well together, and it represents the bride and groom as well. Even with the differences, the two colors bring out the best of each other.

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title pic Pinoy Wedding Processional

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Wedding Ceremony

Wedding Ceremony

A wedding is a ceremony and most ceremonies follow conventional tradition and customs, most especially with Filipinos who love following traditions in intimate occasions such as weddings.  Since Filipinos are most Catholics, they follow a certain way of doing the wedding processional; the sad thing is most Filipinos do not even know how a real processional should go.

A traditional Catholic wedding processional starts with the priest, best man and groom entering through the side doors of the church, steps on the center of the altar and faces the audience/guests. Then the groomsmen and bridesmaids walk down in pairs.  The pair who will stand farthest from the center shall be the pair to walk the aisle first.  At the end of the pairs, the maid of honor shall walk solo towards the altar, beside the spot where the bride is supposed to stand.  Following the maid of honor is the ring bearer and the coin bearer (if both are present) then the flower girl who shall be dropping petals in preparation of the coming of the bride.  After which, everyone shall be asked to stand to honor the bride who shall be escorted by the father (or mother if the father is unavailable, or any other make figure close to the bride).  Traditionally, the father stands on the left side as he brings the bride towards the altar to finally give the bride’s hand to the groom.  Then the father seats next to the mother who is already seated on the front row.

Although this processional is the traditional one, most couples like to experiment and choreograph their own style.  But sticking with the last part where the bride walks down the aisle last towards her waiting groom on the altar.

The groom also commonly stands on the left side of the bride.  Such tradition is rooted from the medieval times where the groom usually had to prepare to defend his bride.  He stands on the left to make room for his right hand to pull out his sword when the circumstances ask for it.  Although grooms today do not carry a sword anymore (although some like to), the traditional still is practiced as it is today.

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title pic Weddings and the many Filipino Superstitions

Posted by admin on July 4, 2012

Filipinos are one of the most superstitious people in the world, thanks to our diverse culture and ancestors. Although not all of which are being practiced and followed, some couples like to respect folklore superstitions out of respect or maybe an important elderly in the couple says so. Whatever the reasons are, if it wouldn’t hurt to follow, then it might be best to do so. The couple may have much to gain and nothing to lose anyway.

One popular wedding superstition is that the couple becomes prone to accidents prior to the event, thus it is advised that the couple shouldn’t travel long distances and avoid it as much as they can. Not unless the couple wants an out-of-town or a beach wedding, following the superstition wouldn’t hurt. It would cut down on your trip expenses and more for the wedding fund.

Bride shouldn’t wear pearls during the wedding because it will bring bad luck to the marriage. As much as a couple can, they can just choose a gown that works well with other pieces of jewelry instead of pearls. It doesn’t really have a logical explanation to it, but if diamonds can just be paired with the gown then the couple may have better luck.

Another superstition is that breaking any piece of glass at the wedding is a sign of good luck. Although this can’t be a pretty sight at receptions where the couple is expected to pay for anything’s that broken (which doesn’t seem to be a sign of luck at all), it is just better to allot a few buck for the wedding fund, just in case.

Lastly, one of the most popular superstitions is that the groom should always arrive earlier than the bride or else it will bring bad luck. In this case, it is always best that the groom arrives early since he is expected to be the one waiting in the altar and not the bride. Also, by arriving early, the groom will have time to make any last minute checks before the grand ceremony starts.

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title pic Little Things to Consider at Weddings

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A wedding can be the best time and the worst at the same time. It is a lot of hard work, it can be stressful with all the things to think about like church, reception, caterers, florists, guests and the list goes on. The big things usually preoccupy the couple, forgetting all the small stuff until the wedding day when the couple realizes how important it is.

A couple needs to bring snacks throughout the day! Weddings even if it is scheduled later in the day needs a lot of time for preparation, and that consumes most of the day. It wouldn’t be impossible not to get a little hungry every now and then. The least thing a couple needs is dizzy wife at the wedding, so be sure to pack a light snack like a sandwich to nourish the couple for the rest of the day.

Everyone must have heard about a wedding day disaster story because of a torn wedding dress. Stories like this are common and yet, most couples still couldn’t be prepared for it. An emergency sewing kit should always be ready on the wedding day. Wedding dress may cost a thousand bucks but it is still made of fabric which will likely to tear. Having a readily-available kit can come in handy to save the couple from the disaster of walking down the aisle with a torn dress.

Another little must-have is a set of toiletries and that includes wipes, tissues, deodorizing spray, soap, toothbrush, etc. Again, a wedding lasts a whole day and couples, just like any other person may be called upon by natural phenomenon. Having toiletries around can make the event less stressful and smooth. Also, eating every now and then, and during the reception could lead to dental mishaps and having a toothbrush ready is better, or at least a mouthwash will do.

 

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