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title pic Classy Wedding Gowns on the Budget

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Are you preparing the biggest day of your life?  Weddings are surely something we all dream of – walking down the aisle and showing the world how glowing we are on the day of our wedding. Wedding Gowns seem to be one of the highlights of this event.  It is what all the guests are waiting for to see.  Wedding gowns have been a status symbol of the bride, or if not, it symbolizes her personality.

Long time in the Western Country, white gowns and dresses were only worn in mourning.  In 1840’s white wedding gowns set a status symbol when Queen Victoria  married Albert of Saxe-Coburg, not just because a Queen has worn this color of gown but because being white that it cannot be easily cleaned so that means it can be worn only once.

Wedding Gowns

Wedding Gowns

Wedding gown designs have evolved from simple and conservative to extravagant and daring.  But only one comes into the mind of a bride, her gown has to be classy and beautiful but she has to stick to her budget.  So, where do we find Classy gowns on the budget?

There are actually many dressmakers who offer designing and making the gown on a package.  This package often comes together with the gowns of the whole entourage.  Price depends on how many pairs will be made.  You can get the design you want that fits your budget.

Are you a bride that has a little time left in preparing for your big day?  Try ready made beautiful wedding gowns and scout the area of Divisoria where you can find ready made gowns.  The price range is from 3,000 pesos for a satin made gown.  A sequined and more detailed gown complete with a veil and other accessories may cost up to 6,000 pesos.  For practical purposes having a ready made gown is a best choice.

The bottom line is that the price of the gown you will be wearing down the aisle is not a big deal.  Wedding day is just one day of your married life, and that is what’s more important above all.

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title pic Romantic Beach/Outdoor Wedding

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Every soon to be married couples try their best to have a solemn and romantic wedding venue to set everyone’s mood and to make their guests feel the love they have for each other.  That is why churches are decorated with beautiful flowers.

Filipino Catholic couples are now open to ideas such as bringing their wedding outdoor and still celebrate the matrimony with a Catholic priest.  The wedding venues evolve to having it celebrated on beach resorts and after the wedding rites, everybody would not go elsewhere for the reception. The guests may even enjoy the water after the reception and a wide variety of “gimmicks” can be done to entertain the newlyweds and the guests like having a fire dance performance or a hula dance.  Miles away from a traditional wedding is having everyone travel after the wedding rites in the church to the reception hall, have a little celebration, and maybe have a singer/performer serenade everybody.

Fun and unique souvenirs may also be given away following the beach motif, like flip-flops or beautifully crafted seashells.

But of course, budget wise, beach weddings are twice as expensive as having a traditional one.  Since most couple would need to have their guests travel from the city to the beach resort.  Sometimes an accommodation for everybody would also be needed since the occasion would eat up their time for everybody’s preparation.

Good thing is that some beach resorts offer a package for wedding ceremonies and reception which has an accommodation for everybody too!  Try the beach resorts at Batangas where the sand is white and the water is clear.  Taal Lake and Taal Volcano is a romantic set for wedding also.  Most of them would offer the whole resort for private use on the date of the wedding.  This costs less and more fun!

Tagaytay Wedding

Tagaytay Wedding

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title pic Wedding Budget Survival

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Going about a wedding plan is stressful.  Here as follows are some tips to ease away headaches and perhaps just go with the motion and flow towards the wedding day.

You know very well that you are financially independent.  Consider this planning for a wedding your “Baptism of Fire”.    Understand what details are important to you.   So, set priorities.  Why, because it determines how you will go about in planning or allocating a budget while raising a family.  Since this is after all the end result of the celebration.

Wedding is a celebration to be shared to all and everyone.  Ask yourself, “What matters most to us?”  Determine if it’s a need or a want.    Then, decide on the top three (3) most important elements to be one’s priority.

In the top three devote much of the time and allocate the funds as needed.   Stick to a reasonable wedding budget.   Next, pick the least three elements, also as to time and expense.

In deciding your choices ask yourself practical and pragmatic questions.   Must the wedding go on a limited or unlimited budget?    Must the guest be limited or unlimited?     Must it be formal or an informal wedding?   This is just but some of the questions to be probed and asked about together as a couple.

Noticeably and perhaps admittedly, the Philippine culture gives much importance to parents in coming up with the least of guests to be invited.   These are you close kin’s or relatives, and close family friends.

Having decided on the number of guests on each side be sure to stick to it.   Your choice must be based on priorities and a lot of considerations.   Never feel a sense of guilt that the uninvited will be offended or overlooked.    Ideally, it should be on an equal number of guests.   This is, of course, the traditional set-up.

There is an option to deviate from the norm.   As young professional of today make your own wedding lists.   Be sure to trim them down and not to add up the guest list.   One needs a meeting of the minds in order to appease everyone.

In the reception, limit your dinner to three (3) courses but still amazing to the palate of your guests.   For sure you can still have a tasty meal on a budget.

A Filipino wedding is indeed a family oriented celebration.   It is a gathering of close friends and kin or a reunion of relatives.

So the number to show up and be counted should be done strictly, especially when you send out the invitations.   That is the importance of the RSVP.

Remember, a wedding need not be fancy.  In the context of the principle of matrimony the heart of the wedding is the vows said for each other and with a priest blessing your union.

It is this simplicity done in a sacred and holy manner, with all the elements of dignity and the charm of simplicity that matters.

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title pic The Civil and Canonical Marriage – Roman Catholic Disposition

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The Roman Catholic teachings now encourage couples to contract both the civil as well as the canonical marriage because the well being of society and the church is founded on the well being of families and the well being of the families is founded on stable marriages.

Therefore, the couple’s mutual love must be regulated and assisted by the society through the civil marriage and by the church through the Sacrament of Matrimony.

This disposition of the Catholic Church is interwoven into the fabric of civil law and the law applied uniformly to Filipinos except for Muslim Filipinos.

Unlike before, civil marriage was frowned upon by church officials and that to undergo into it is a “mortal sin” as decreed by Vatican, Rome.    With the evolving minds and the constant realities of present changes from the standard norms, the acceptance of the church to the nature of civil marriage is indeed well appreciated.

Though the church and state affairs are independent as provided by the country’s constitution, it is still a fact that any person residing in the country are still guided by the supreme law of the land.   And the church or temples of any religious denominations are not above or exempted by the provisions of the constitution.

In all intents and purpose, the ecclesiastical power could no longer ignore the legitimacy and validity of civil partnerships as performed by the state, in which case the latter is no longer an obstacle to a legal celebration of the canonical marriage.   The amended section under the Civil Code of the Philippines, Chapter III entitled Marriage to the Family Code of the Philippines as promulgated on July 6, 1987, is now relevant and specific to allow ecclesiastics to recognize civil marriages.

So, in the Philippines, the Sacrament of Marriage incorporates also the Civil Marriage in accordance to the prescribed formalities.

The Code of Cannon Law; Canon 1055 states; that the marriage covenant, by which man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of their whole life and which of its own very nature is ordered to the well-being of the spouses and to the procreation and upbringing of children, has, between the baptized, been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament.

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title pic Protestant Wedding – Philippines

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With home grown religions like the Philippine Independent Church or the Aglipayans and the Iglesia ni Kristo, other form of religious denomination was brought to our shore by the American colonizers.  Protestant missionaries that brought and spread their beliefs were the Anglicans, the Lutherans, the Calvinist and the Presbyterians.

In the Philippines, the first Protestant wedding service was held in 1898 for the American colonizers.

The various denominations had specific rules and regulation with regard to a wedding rite and a ceremony.  But they follow a certain standard with concepts embodied in the “Book of Common Prayers”.

Here are some highlights of the ceremony and its symbolism accorded, as follows:

The Unity Candle. This is the most unique ceremonial rite common to all protestant weddings.  The bride and the groom each have a small candle symbolizing (2) individuals living separate lives.   And with these, bearing two (2) lighted candles, subsequently lights a big candle which symbolizes the unity of their ever burning love into the true light of the world, Jesus Christ.

The presentation and Positioning of the Bible.     These is the “Word of God” and as couples to be read, examined and understood as both are going towards the life of marriage.

The symbolism of the coins.     Signifies for the man’s material possessions and a token of God’s blessing to sustain the couple’s welfare, as bestowed to the bride

The veil.     An expression of God’s care and protection to the couple’s life of marriage.

The tying of the cord.     A symbol of God’s immeasurable love binding the couple as one united to Him, the Almighty.

As a rule in protestant weddings, the minister facing the couple and the congregation asks the question, “Who giveth this woman to be wedded?” and which is anticipated and listened by all in attendance since its identifies the father, mother of the bride.

The basic requirements are still to be complied with in accordance with the laws of marriage of the land.  The protestant wedding service is very methodical and is Bible centered.

The American colonizers not only brought along with them the importance of education which is the major factor of their influence to our culture but also a doctrine of non-allegiance to Rome. At present we see the difference in solemnity and order of the religion as carried forth by the Spanish and American colonizers. To which is best, it is anyone’s choice.

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title pic Muslim Wedding Ceremony

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Islam came to the Philippines about the end of the 14th century.   Our Muslim friends still adhere strictly to the ancient form of wedding rituals even to this day.   The wedding rituals feature the stages as follows: the courtship, the offer and negotiation of the dowry and the wedding festivities.  All these are carried in a week’s time.

A go-between is assigned by the man’s family to call on the woman’s family to declare the noble intention.  And protocol requires and demands that every house hold that has a say or right to the woman must seek the approval.

As the woman’s family accepts the man’s desire for marriage, the tribe’s chieftain will execute and initiate the dowry’s negotiation.  The dowry is an offer of costly goods to the woman and to the family as well.  This is a tradition which forms the basic requirement of an Islamic marriage.  The goods are fixed strictly in the form of gold and land and upon offering to the woman, forms part of her and the family’s belonging.

An Islamic wedding rite is performed and solemnized by an Imam, the term referred to the Muslim priest and is witnessed by all members of the family from both sides.  Initially, the bride and the groom receive the ritual called, “ablution” meaning the purification of the couple.

All the time, with the bride and her attendants placed in the corner of the room opposite the groom, the Imam burns incense and while holding the right hand of the groom recites a passage from the Koran and Hadith.    After which a sermon is delivered and at last a recital of prayer for Allah’s blessing.

After performing the wedding rite, the Imam, takes the groom to the bride and instruct the groom to touch the brides’ forehead to signify the bride’s betrothal as wife to the husband.  This rite is called the “Pagbatal”, the Christian concept of the groom kissing the bride after being pronounced man and wife.

 

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title pic Laws of the Land

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After a decision on marriage has been made between two contracting parties, the next phase to consider is confining, and confirming the laws pertaining to the legitimacy in the conduct of a wedding and the subsequent nature of marriage to be recognized officially.

According to the Civil Code of the Philippines, Article 3, ignorance of the law excuses no one from compliance therewith…

The 1987 Philippine Constitution, the supreme law of the land, states in Section 12 under the Declaration of Principles and State Policy states; The State recognizes the sanctity of family life and shall protect and strengthen the family as a basic autonomous social institution…

Marriage is a special contract of permanent union between a man and a woman entered into in accordance with law for the establishment of conjugal and family.  It is the foundation of the family and an inviolable social institution whose nature, consequences and incidents are governed by law and not subject to stipulation except that marriage settlements may fix property relations during the marriage within the limits provided by this code. Article 1, the Family Code of the Philippines

Before a marriage is contracted between the two parties a marriage license is required.  This is a provision under Article 11 of the Family Code of the Philippines; where a marriage license is required, each of the contracting parties shall file separately a sworn application for such license with the proper local civil registrar which shall specify the following:

(1) Full name of the contracting party;

(2) Place of birth;

(3) Age and date of birth;

(4) Civil status

(5) If previously married, how, when, and where the previous marriage was dissolved or   annulled;

(6) Present residence and citizenship;

(7) Degree of relationship of the contracting parties;

(8) Full name, residence, and citizenship of the Father

(9) Full name, residence and citizenship of the Mother;

(10) Full name, residence, and citizenship of the guardian or person having in charge, in case the contracting party has neither the father nor mother and is under the age of twenty one (21) years.

The above cited provision is applicable to Filipino citizens of any religious denominations, Roman Catholics and Protestants.  This is stipulated in The Family Code of the Philippines. Article 93 which states, freedom of religion shall be observed by public officials in the issuance of authorization to solemnize marriages.   However, for our Muslim brothers, a different code is provided as a guide in the performance of a ceremonial wedding and marriage.

Marriages among Muslims or among members of any ethnic cultural communities may be performed validly without the necessity of a marriage license, provided they are solemnized with their customs, rites or practice. Article 33, the Family Code of the Philippines.

Presidential Decree No. 1083 the “Code of Muslim Personal Laws of the Philippines under Article 13 states, the provisions of this title shall apply to marriage and divorce wherein both parties are Muslims…

The Muslim Personal Law includes all laws relating to personal status, marriage and divorce, matrimonial and family relations, succession and inheritance and property relations between spouses as provided for in the code.

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title pic INK Wedding

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A brief description of an INK wedding:   The groom stands in front of the altar and waits for the bride.    The church choir sings in their white robes and the procession begins in the following order: the flower girl, the ring bearer, bridesmaids and best man, the sponsors and the last is the bride and her father or guardian.  The sponsors are limited no more than five pairs.   In fact, a pair is sufficient enough.  Likewise, choosing a maid of honor from a different religion is tolerated.

Noticeably, the difference from the Catholic wedding are: only traditional wedding music can be played particularly the wedding march; there are no wedding symbols such as the arrhae, wedding cord and the lighting of the candle and the ceremony is very solemn taking only thirty (30) minutes to complete.

Since it’s a wedding ceremony, a bit of leniency is observed as compared to a “pagsamba”, namely the church service where the males are seated at one side and the females at the other side.  In general, depending on the minister of the locale the preference of a dress attire rather than jeans or slack is the code observed strictly by women during a church service.   But a little consideration from the minister is given during such matrimonial ceremony.

The bride and the groom sit in front of the minister.   And the minister together with the congregation in attendance prays the profession of faith for the couple.  He reads the church doctrines and delivers the sermon.

The sermon is the most solemn and important part of the service dealing with the importance of marriage in accordance with their doctrines and beliefs.  The minister, also, reminds them of God’s word on the couple’s marriage duties and obligation to one another as husband and wife.

After which, the couple exchanges wedding vows and rings, and given the benediction.  At the end of the ceremony, the sponsors sign the marriage contract.

The service for a wedding ceremony is free of charge and is conducted in Filipino.

The INC is conducted in a temple’s locale, the term referred to as the ecclesiastical district where either the bride or the grooms reside.  But, it can also be conducted at the Central Temple, located along Commonwealth Avenue, Diliman, Quezon City.

But scheduling for a wedding date should be done at least a year to be accommodated.  And a confirmation must be needed if such a slot or the wedding date can be granted to the couple.

Attending such wedding ceremony is a privilege if one is not a member.   If one is invited by an Iglesia ni Cristo member, the solemnity of the atmosphere as well as the cleanliness of the temple both inside and out is something to be envious about.

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title pic Roman Catholic Insights of Marriage Part 2

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Under the Mosaic Law, the Almighty distinctly announced the dignity and obligation of the holy state of matrimony.  Afterwards under the Christian law, our Divine Redeemer sanctified the state still more and from the natural and civil contract raised matrimony to the dignity of a sacrament.

And St Paul declared it to be a representation of that sacred union which Jesus Christ has formed with the Church, as spouse.  The church is nothing other than the family of God.   It is the community of life and love of a Christian family which constitutes the church in a particular home.

For Catholics, let it be known that the Sacrament of Matrimony has three (3) essential properties; unity, indissolubility and openness to life.

Unity.  Unity or monogamy that a spouse cannot marry more than one person at the same time.  Polygamy, the state of having more than one spouse, is contrary to conjugal love which is by nature undivided and exclusive.  In St Mathew 19:5 states, “A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh”.

Indissolubility.  A marriage valid and consummated cannot be dissolved by any human authority but by death.  In St Mathew 19:6 states: “What God has joined together, no human being must separate.”  But, the present, between Christian spouses the church allows separation for very serious reasons but the state of divorce is forbidden.

Openness to Life.   This gives sanctity to the conjugal act and sexual intimacy and not to the carnal desire to satisfy the needs of the flesh.  This means that the spouses should procreate and educate children according to the will of God.    Referring to a reading in Genesis 1:28,”Be fertile and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it,” is the essential end of marriage.  Hence, no one should be without a family in this world.   Children are the supreme gift of marriage and they contribute greatly to the good of the parents themselves.  Spouses to whom God has not granted children can nevertheless still have a conjugal life full of meaning by engaging in charity, hospitality and sacrifice.

These are what make a couple as one in the mystical grace of matrimony.  Granting inwardly of one heart and one mind, paying due honor to each other, united in love to the Lord Jesus Christ and to each other; living together in peace and holiness, as faithful members of the Catholic Church; denying ourselves and being a mutual help, comfort and support to each other all the days of marriage life.

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title pic Roman Catholic Insights of Marriage Part 1

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Marriage is a sacrament because the covenant between the spouses signifies the union of Christ and the Church.  The Sacrament of Matrimony gives spouses the grace to love each other with the love with which Christ has loved his Church.

St Paul under Ephesians verse 22-33 states: Let women be subject to their husbands, as to the Lord; because man is the head of the woman, as Christ is Head of the Church: Himself is Savior of His Body.    But as the Church is subject to Christ, so also women to their husbands in all things.    Husbands love your wives, as Christ also hath loved the Church and delivered Himself up for it that He might sanctify it, cleansing it with the laver of water in the word of life, that He Himself might present to himself a glorious Church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that it may be holy and without blemish.    So also the men ought to love their wives as their own bodies.    He, who loveth his wife, loves himself.    For no man ever hated his own flesh but he nourishes and cherishes it, as also Christ the Church; for we are members of His body, of his flesh and of his bones.     For this cause man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife and they two shall be one flesh.    This mystery is great, but I say I Christ and in the Church.    Nevertheless, let you also severally each love his wife and he loves himself and let the wife fear her husband.

It is exactly for this Bible passage that the real ministers and primary characters of the Sacrament of Marriage are the spouses.  The priest only assists in administering the rites.  The priest simply receives the consent of the spouses and bestows the blessing in the name of the church, which Christ has loved.

Likewise, the writings of St Paul strongly inculcated these duties to those entering marriage to have only worthy and holy motives for each other.    Further emphasizing, that couples to frequently reflect on the duties and obligations as imposed in the word of God.

The holy sacrament of matrimony was instituted by Almighty God in the beginning of the world and under the law of nature had a particular blessing annexed to it. Marriage is such a sublime sacrament that it signifies the eternal life in paradise.  A paradise analogous to the earthly paradise to be initially experience on, till death do us part.

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