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title pic Philippine Wedding Superstitious Beliefs

Posted by admin on June 15, 2012

The Spanish colonization had one of its objectives the conversion of the local populace to the faith they believe and adhere to, the faith of Roman Catholicism.

In the absence of an organized religion, inferiority of the indigenous religion and fear sowed by the colonizers, the conquest of ignorant minds was easy to achieve.   And Islam, the religion predominant at the time, was rapidly overtaken in the minds and hearts.

Reinforcing the constructive work on the faith the religious order brought to our shore, along with tolerance on some indigenous religious customs; superstitions were incorporated leading to the corruption of the feeble mind of the locals.

Filipinos have developed superstitions that are related to marriage and weddings, as practiced and followed in any region and province.  The beliefs have formed part of the Filipino culture to caution altar bound couples from any untoward events in their wedding and eventually a life of marriage. Regretting at the end if mishaps do happen after all is non- negotiable for couples.

The following are some beliefs to delight the imaginative mind and for all altars bound pairs to ponder.

  • The bride leaves for church in a chauffeured driven white car with her father only riding along with the bride.  With the convoy of vehicles with the bride’s wife and the family members aboard, the bridal car should be timed in such a way that it arrives last at the church driveway
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title pic The Woman – A Bride to Behold

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Behold, woman, this is your day to take and to behold.

To a woman, the day of wedding is called, The Brides Day.  Perhaps it is.  The perception showing its biased opinion may hold true.

As a subject of thought, the cliché can best be reflected, alongside the physical and spiritual perspective.

It is a customary practice that when a bride sets foot on the church aisle, she is subjected under a magnifying glass to the prying eyes like a commodity or merchandise.   It seems like being dissected amidst the gathering of guest, visitors and family members as well.

They observe and note her demeanor and bearing or disposition.  From the way she wears her gown and the facial expression that she exudes showing either joy, happiness, contentment.

Rarely, is the groom given much attention or complimentary remarks on a matrimonial ceremony.

In the context of spirituality, it is an appropriate showing of a woman representing humanity.

The Book of Genesis describes, before the creation of Eve, the woman, Adam, the man was surrounded with all and any specie of living creature.   But Adam had no one looking like himself.    So, Yahweh the Creator in all his benevolence created a woman by taking Adam’s rib and filled its place with flesh.

The created woman was meant to be a companion and not a servant.   She was not taken from the upper part of the body nor at the lower part, but at the man’s side.  A woman created equal to the man, not inferior or superior.

The woman is the source of bringing forth the reality of humankind to procreate and multiply.  The woman represents the generation of humankind.   Man in its persona is defined to the role of stewardship of creation.

The prior existence of animals in the Garden of Eden has placed man in a state of preparedness to realize the unique value of a woman.  In Yahweh foresight, the principle of marriage is brought forth to make humankind grow in order to provide care and direction for and over human creature’s.

To state a wedding day as a bride’s day deserves enough admiration that no man can contradict.  The day of wedding is indeed meant for a woman to behold.

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title pic A Philippine Military Wedding

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There is that uniqueness in every military wedding.  It is a pleasure to see the bride in ecstasy to experience this once in a lifetime moment which not every woman will have the liberty to realize.

There really is nothing in particular to expect when it comes to a military wedding.   It’s just that the groom, a member of the military service, is wearing the appropriate gala uniform as required for such occasions.

Perhaps this is the only wedding ceremony where the groom is the center of attraction and not the bride.

The branches of military service in the Philippines are namely, the Philippine Army, Air Force and Navy.

However there are protocols that need to be observed.  When it comes to the wording in the military invitations, a military etiquette is observed and followed strictly with respect.

Special considerations are also made as to the seating arrangements.    A high ranking military officer in this case, a Lieutenant Colonel and above, are seated in positions of honor at both the ceremony and reception.   By tradition, the officers are seated directly behind the bride and groom family while the ceremony is ongoing.

What defines and distinguish a military wedding from a civilian wedding is the arch of sabers.    But the arch of sabers is performed solely for commissioned officers.   The arch symbolizes the safe passage of newlywed couple into their new life as husband and wife. It is the highlight of any military wedding tradition.

After the wedding rites, the ushers line up on either side of the aisle in the church.   There are times, if the weather is fine; formation is done outside the entrance of the church.

At the command of the head usher’s “Draw sabers” they raise their swords into the air forming carefully an archway.   The newlyweds pass under the arch way and at the command “Return sabers” the ushers return their swords into their sheath at their sides.   In turn they escort the bridesmaid down the aisle, likewise.

Often the national colors and the distinguished flags of the branch of service walk directly behind the center of the receiving line.

This formation is performed again during the cutting of the cake.  The bearers are in formation in front of the cake.   The bride and the groom pass beneath the sword towards the cake.

Mostly, civilians are at awe and admiration as they watch the ritual by the side of the aisle.

Well, anyway, the only difference that one sees in this style of wedding is the tradition.  What is important is the fact that the center stage actors, the bride and groom, have officially taken their vows of marriage.

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title pic Recognition on Mixed Marriage

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Mixed marriage is defined as the union of a man and a woman with different culture, religion, or nationalities.   It is the state of living together as husband and wife with norms of either the eastern or western hemisphere.

There is a need of a thorough examination if one is to enter the realm of marriage with someone not of your own.   The marriage of couples bearing different cultural background and nationalities can be intimidating if one’s character cannot cope up in balancing with conformity the cultures at hand.

Anyone who plans to settle down must think a hundred times regarding the subject of marriage.   One can never know if one’s marriage can be a life of bliss or a life of misery and sadness.

Filipinos are no longer seeing it strange to the idea of a mixed marriage.    Our Malay forefathers have contracted marriages with the Chinese, Spanish and American nationalities.   The conglomeration of the cited nationalities has brought about a Filipino genogram and culture unique on its own.

However, present time, evidences have exposed that our Filipino woman are at great risk when mixed marriages happen.    Some women are allured to mixed marriage due to financial consideration. Alongside, contrary to this notion are women indeed in love with a foreign partner that marriage proposals are heartily and freely accepted.

If a marriage is planned to occur in the Philippines, the requirements applied to our citizens as provided by the laws of the land is likewise the same in mixed marriages.    What is of utmost importance is that the wedding ceremony conducted in our country is recognized in the country the foreign partner was born.

There are instances that marriages done in the country are not recognized in the country of the foreign partner that permanent settlement is impeded.    So the purpose and the intent to live as a family create risk more so to a Filipino woman than to the man.  These factors can force plans to change dramatically.

The reality of mixed marriages cannot be avoided.   What can be avoided is to become a victim to mixed marriages happening to be a scam and fraudulent which puts much emotional strain to any Filipino.

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title pic The Wedding Coordinator

Posted by admin on May 31, 2012

What makes our Filipino wedding unique is our colorful and lively culture, be it influenced by the Spanish and American norm.    Here emanates, the history of our wedding ceremony and reception.

With families and friends, a celebration on the day of wedding is a much awaited event being looked forward to.    Nowadays, young couples, professionals with the financially capacity have risen up the bar in going about in the preparation and arrangement of their wedding.

Not too long ago parents of both the bride and the groom are responsible in the preparations and arrangements of the wedding ceremony in accordance to beliefs, customs and traditions of the region and province.

A majority are now availing the services of a wedding coordinator, a professional enterprise unheard of before.    It is now a breeze going through the maze of the wedding details with professional supervision, a comfort to young couples that cannot squeeze in time into their tight schedules while working.

The skills in managing, preparing and arranging the ceremony by these enterprising coordinators come to fore to come up with a wedding ceremony and reception the couple desires and dreams about.

Nowadays, young couples are venturing in to the idea of originality, simplicity and practicality.  And after a series of meetings these ideas are created into realities.

They now find that pleasures of a beautiful memory can still be achieved minus the extravagance attached to the wedding.   To focus on the right concept and the purpose of matrimony is what is of utmost importance to them to which the coordinator adheres to strictly as much as possible.

A sage advice to young couple contemplating on marriage is never attempt to come up with a wedding ceremony and reception on a grand scale.  The simpler the better.

What matters most at the end of the day is how two distinct and different personalities can be able to live and survive as one and eventually raise a family for the rest of their lives.  This notion shall likewise be taken into one’s mind by a wedding coordinator.

The wedding coordinator can have a duality of roles in the lives of couples.  They could serve as a butler with regards to the supervision of the marriage ceremony and reception and as marriage counselors in leading them to a happy and blissful married life.

 

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title pic The Bride – A Woman of Grandeur

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A Filipino woman given much importance and significance in society.  This is further emphasized in the tradition prior to the act of matrimony.

Our male ancestors during the pre-Hispanic era have the compulsory customary law of offering a dowry to the woman he so desires to marry.  Unlike in some countries where tradition dictates that the bride brings a dowry to her husband at marriage.

The Spanish and American periods saw the practice of customs, namely, the “pamanhikan and panilbihan” for a husband in professing undying love and fortitude to the woman.

Pamanhikan is a term to describe a man seeking the woman’s father attention and approval to marry her daughter. It is a social meeting of both families with foods and drinks being served.  Panilbihan is a term to describe the period of servitude by a man, conducting household chores in a woman’s house.

The proof of the burden in professing endearment to the woman he loves is on the shoulders of the man.   Seeking among family members approval gives undue pressure, if one could imagine.   But, sad to note, this is perhaps rarely or no longer a practice being performed by   young couple nowadays.

A clear manifestation in honor of the family’s daughter bound to be wed is the lovely Filipino tradition called the “despedida de soltera.”

It’s a send off dinner party given days before the wedding.  For daughters’ of every family, it is a fitting tribute of saying good-bye to a life of maidenhood and also a gesture of wishing her a blissful life towards the state of matrimony.   It is also a way the family indicates their stamp of approval and their bestowal of blessings on her.  Usually, it is a gathering of families, both of the bride and groom to know each other.

Come next is a social norm practice to also honor the bride to be that is not hosted by immediate family members is called the bridal shower.   It is a party organized by close friends and held anywhere.  The choice of venue is for the hostess to decide.

Never has feminism been placed aloft on a pedestal, as the foresaid events are aptly described.   It set forth the respect and love for a woman days before her wedding.

The dignity of a woman, indeed, is worth mentioning and exacting in the formalities of marriage ever since.  A defining moment for a bride….  Truly a woman of grandeur to exalt….

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title pic Filipino Old Fashion Courtship

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Inherent to Philippine society and culture are rules and standards set out during the period of courtship that a suitor extends not only to the Filipino woman but to the family as well. Alongside with the manner that a Filipino woman undertakes during the period of courtship, is given insight.

However, these practices nowadays are a dime a few.   So here goes, just to mention some, to reminisce the period before the onset of the twentieth century.

Filipino men are by nature romantics at heart in courting the woman they love. Recounting the stories as told by our grandfathers, a Filipino male suitor was not perceived to be aggressive and arrogant in the manner of courting.

Their expression of interest to a woman is shown in a subtle and mild manner way, to the point of even avoiding startling gestures to the woman they desire to be taken as offensive.     Their expressions of interest to the woman are of many forms, such as, rendering love songs, poems, and letters of endearment and the bestowal of gifts.

In a rural setting, one delightful show of endearment is the practice of serenading the woman at night.  This practice influenced and adopted by male Filipinos during the Spanish colonization is now a thing of the past.

The Filipino women not so long ago attributed character traits akin with the Maria Clara style of disposition.  A testament to the influence of the Spanish colonization, the style of disposition is a description of the manner the Filipino woman exudes to be regarded as a conservative kind.  The woman is a prize to catch the heart of a Filipino man, worthy to be taken as a wife.  So to speak.

The following are some rules that a woman observes when courted.

They neither deny nor confirm their feelings towards the person. There are instances the woman will avoid the man just to test the persons’ fortitude.  In summary, they subject the man to any imaginary ploy to playing hard to get, to test the strength of character.

The illustrations above are but some of the traditional courting practices that no longer are existent.   Western cultural traditions have over taken and replaced the traditions once cherished by our grandparents.   Even the woman with a Maria Clara style of disposition is now a rarity.   So much so, if a man finds one at the moment, the woman certainly is a treasure to keep for a life time.

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title pic The Reception

Posted by admin on May 29, 2012

Amidst the economic difficulties everyone is facing at present, the reception part is the most taxing detail that drains our financial resources in the wedding preparation.  This is further emphasized and described in the following scenarios.

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