Posted by admin on June 24, 2012
God parenting at a marriage requires a base of established kinships or friendship of long standing, one presupposing mutual care and concern and not one necessitated on a personal or family interest as called for by occasion.
The bride and the groom to be, usually consult their respective parents in drawing up the list of sponsors. They might be close elders such as a favorite aunt, uncle or close family friends. Most of the time this is where involvement of parents sometimes leads to a clash with their son’s and daughter’s as to their preference or choice of sponsors. There will be arguments when parents insist that a certain person be included in the list of sponsors. One need to compromise to severe misunderstandings, so make sure your choice is justified.
As sponsors, the “ninong” and “ninang”, Filipino words attached to terms of endearment for a close person are supposed to be second parents or counselors to whom the young couple may run for succor or guidance. At core, it is a very special relationship. Being a sponsor at a marriage then carries with it some moral responsibility and obligation for the young couple.
However, the principal sponsors’ original function by the dictates of matrimony are to stand for all intents and purpose, as witness to the marriage.
Strictly, then, a marrying couple only needs two sponsors. The present, the culture of wedding witness, as sponsors have evolved into the general thinking of: “the more of them the merrier.”
Sponsors are usually chosen for certain specific qualities: such as a spring of worldly wisdom from which the young would imbibe, for character traits, or achievements worth emulating, or for being models of respectability.
In reality, what validates and perhaps, the main consideration in the choice of principal sponsors is the expectation of an expensive wedding present or gift likely to be received. Particularly, if the sponsor and the young couple are very close, gifts offered wholeheartedly are on a personal level.
Always bear in mind that the end result of a wedding ceremony is the married life. It is happy to note that aside from the parents and close friends, your choice of “ninang or ninong” are close by to assist either financially or emotionally.